Recently Hannah had been having a hard time at school. One of the other girls had been deliberately excluding her, and doing that staring thing which girls do, and stuff. Stuff that girls do to each other sometimes for no real reason.
In a large school, she could go and play with another group, but when there are only 4 girls in your class, and only 2 classes in the school, your options are limited. We are thankful that the school has been proactive in dealing with the situation. But as a teacher, I know how hard it is to solve these problems.
It has been heartbreaking to watch Hannah’s confidence slip; to see her withdrawn, and angry, and confused. Hurting.
After a few weeks the situation seems to have resolved it self, but Hannah is taking a while to get back to her old self. She seems more wary. Less inclined to put herself out there. For someone who has always shied away from the spotlight, she has stepped even further back. It’s going to take a little time.
Parenting is one of those things that, just when you think you have mastered something, bam! Something else hits you unexpectedly. Trying to build resilience in kids is hard work. To strike that balance between stepping in, and standing back and letting them sort it out.
All I can do is be there as a safe place to fall. Somewhere to express her anger and frustration. Someone to cheer her on, and give her advice.
Quite frankly, it makes the toilet training, and toddler issues seem so easy.