Yesterday, after the girls had left for school, and I had left for work. Country Boy and Toby were sitting at the table finishing their breakfast when Toby said “Where my Meggy?”. Toby loves both his sisters. When he can’t find them he will often ask “Where Duys (guys)?” and he calls Hannah “My Hanney”, but he has a special relationship with Meg. They are closer in age than he and Hannah, and Meg is so patient and loving towards him.
Since Meg started school, he has been missing her every day. Toby loves to trail around after her, and always wants to join in the games with the girls. They have spent a lot of time together over the past few years, but in the last 6 months they have been able to play together so much more. Suddenly his play mate has disappeared.
We knew that Meg going to school would mean adjustments not just for her and us, but for Toby too. Country Boy is trying to make sure he spends time actively playing with Toby, because Meg isn’t there to do it. He really misses the girls all day!
Both Country Boy and I are the oldest sibling in our families. We know plenty about trying to break parents in, and having to be responsible, but we don’t really know about the lot of the youngest child who, whilst getting perhaps more individual attention, has to put up with everyone doing things before them. It can be quite hard for a little chap to be left behind