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Things I Don’t Do That Keep Life Simple

From time to time I get emails asking me how I “do it all?”. How do I balance the whole work/family/farm/life thing and still keep our life simple? The truth is that very often I don’t. Or should I say we don’t, because living simply is a whole family exercise. It’s not just down to me. The one thing I have learnt over time though, is that living simply is as much about what you don’t do as what you do do (and I just wrote doo doo in a sentence so the 7 year old inside me is giggling). It’s what you leave out, and what you don’t bother with that help to make life simpler.

In our family there are lots of things that we just don’t bother with, or things that we make a choice to leave out of our lives, in an effort to keep life simple (or at least simpler).

Ironing

Yep we don’t iron. The kids’ school uniforms are wash and wear, Country Boy’s farm clothes don’t need ironing before they get covered in dirt again, and I choose clothes that don’t need ironing when I buy clothes.  With the exception of an occasional top or dress (usually for a wedding, funeral, or party) we don’t iron. I have been known to apply a hair straightener to the collar of a blouse on occasions but that is as far as it goes. Tea towels, sheets, and pillow cases get folded straight off the washing line so they don’t need ironing either.

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Making Fancy Lunches For The Kids

You will never find pinterest worthy lunch boxes in our house. The kids help Country Boy to make their lunch each morning, which usually consist of a sandwich (Vegemite is still the favourite) or some left overs from dinner, together with a few bits of fruit, and perhaps a muffin, piece of cake, or some crackers. There’s no love notes, no daintily cut salads, and no bento style pick your own. If you enjoy doing that type of thing, all power to you, but in our house it just doesn’t happen.

Buying Lots Of Clothes

By having a small selection of clothes I find it makes decisions about what to wear easy. In fact my wardrobe is so predictable, that the year 12 girls at my school have opinions on my skirts which I wear all summer – they have a favourite one (obviously they pay more attention than I do!). As an example, I have 5 pairs of winter suit pants for work which mix and match with 5 or 6 shirts. I have 9 pairs of shoes which cover any conceivable outfit combination (farm boots, black flats for work, converse sneakers, real sneakers, thongs, black knee high boots, two pairs of sandals, and a pair of black heels). I’ve seen  articles around about a 30 hanger wardrobe, but I don’t think mine is that small, but it wouldn’t be far off.

Over the years I have learnt what styles of clothing I like and what works for my life, and I only buy things that go with my wardrobe. I’m prepared to spend a little more on quality clothing that will last, and that I love, because I know it will get used often, and I would rather have a few more expensive items that I love and use often, than lots of things I bought because they were cheap, but I don’t love.

If you want to simplify your life, I can’t explain how good it is to have fewer clothes – anything that hasn’t been worn in 12 months gets the toss.

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Entertaining The Kids

Now this sounds bad, but I don’t really play with my kids. I find it incredibly boring, and to be honest they don’t need me to entertain them. I will set up activities for them, or help them get things they need, but they are responsible for entertaining themselves. This is not to say that we don’t do things with our kids – family board games, fruit picking, days out, and even chores are all regular things we do together, but day to day playing is not on the agenda. We have provided them with a selection of toys, books, and art and craft activities, and they have bikes, cubbies, swings, and a couple of hundred acres at their disposal. Here’s the best part; because I don’t entertain them, they have become really good at doing it themselves. As I write this, I’m sitting on the veranda, and the three kids are dragging things up and down the ladder of their tree house. I’m not exactly sure what they are doing, but they seem to have a plan, and they are working cooperatively to achieve it! They don’t want me there, and I’m OK with that!

Keep Lots Of Things “Just In Case”

I’m an incurable “chucker”. I love to get rid of things that we don’t use, and I’m not someone who keeps a lot of things “just in case”. When I last sorted out the linen press, I kept two sets of sheets for each of the family beds, and one set for the spare beds. That is all we use, so I didn’t want four old extra sets sitting around “just in case” we need them. I can tell you that in the intermittent years, we have never needed more linen than we have, and should the time ever come, I will borrow the sets I need from my mother in law or a friend. I think we often keep items “just in case” because we feel guilty about throwing away something we spent money on but don’t use, or because we just want to defer the decision to get rid of it.

Bite the bullet and get rid of anything that you really can’t see yourself needing in the next 12 months. On the rare chance that you realise that you really did need that thing, just buy a new one (trust me when I say you probably won’t need to!).

Getting rid of things that you don’t use clears both physical space in the house, and mental space in your head. Both of which are essential to living simply.

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Have More Than One Television

Now some simple living fans would never have a tv in their house, but we aren’t about to lose our completely. I am however, determined to have no more than one in the house. While we are not big TV watchers, when we do turn it on, at least we are in the same room together. We can chat in the ad breaks (or even during the show), and it becomes a shared experience for us. It also means we can monitor what our kids are watching as well. If we were to have multiple televisions, it would be very easy for us all to be in separate rooms, isolated, watching our own shows. Occasionally we have more than one show we’d like to watch on at the same time, but we can always record one.

Have The Kids Do Lots Of Extra Curricular Activities

I think I have written about this before, but our kids don’t do lots of after school activities. In the summer all three do swim club together on Friday nights, and the girls learn the piano at school (they have their lesson during lunch on Monday – half each). The benefits of this approach, for us, is the additional time to spend together as a family, as well as less time negotiating lifts, pick up times, and clashing schedules. Add to this, we spend a lot less time driving our kids places. Our kids need lots of down time, and so when they get home, their time is largely their own.

Over this last term, Hannah has been doing additional swimming training a couple of afternoons a week in preparation for the regional, and then state carnival. I have noticed how the additional time spent away from home has really put extra stress on the whole family, and she has struggled to get the down time she needs. Although I’m super proud of her efforts and achievements, I’m glad that swimming has now finished for the year (no indoor heated pool around here!), and I can see that lots of extra curricular activities just won’t work for our family.

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If you’re finding life is very busy and you don’t know how to start simplifying it, start by taking something out. You won’t make life simpler by adding something. Take one thing that sucks up your time and stop doing it.

 

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  1. Elisa @ With Grace & Eve says

    July 10, 2016 at 8:12 am

    Oh I love this Jo! It’s been on my mind this year as I juggle my three girls, school, kinder and return to work from home with the baby! I have adopted quite a few of these, but you’ve got me thinking about how ai can simplify further. I love your approach. Thank you! Great post x

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  2. swampyankeestyle says

    April 29, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    I love this post…I do or don’t dothese things and it really does make things simpler. I just never thought about it all together before. I had to share this on Facebook. Great post.

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    • Jo@CountryLifeExperiment says

      April 29, 2016 at 8:03 pm

      Thanks there are so many easy ways to simplify life!

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  3. jess64au says

    April 20, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    Love the hair straighten tip. We are very similar in keeping everything simple. I’m finding we are getting a lot of pressure to pick up extra curriculum activities in particular saturday sport. But I’m holding my ground of swimming lessons and 1 other activity until they finish primary school.

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    • Jo@CountryLifeExperiment says

      April 20, 2016 at 3:19 pm

      Just be careful if you’re wearing the shirt already 😉 So far as extra curricular activities, you just need to keep reminding yourself that your kids are not missing out – they are having their needs met!

      Reply
  4. Nina Mills | What's for eats? says

    April 15, 2016 at 1:32 pm

    I am so with you on the ironing! But I am a bit of a “keep it just in case” person which doesn’t really work when you live in a small apartment!

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  5. Maxabella says

    April 13, 2016 at 2:39 pm

    We are so similar, Jo. I think we approach life in much the same way. The only place where I fall down on your list is the kids’ extra-curricular activities. Perhaps it’s a town mouse thing, but I haven’t been able to do away with them! Mind you, as a working mum, I need the kids to be off and away doing their thing a lot of the time so I can get my job done in good time. x

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    • Jo@CountryLifeExperiment says

      April 13, 2016 at 4:30 pm

      I think we must be similar too Bron, that’s why I read your blog so much! I think that if we still lived in the city, we might do a few more activities. Less time is spent travelling, and carpools and the like can make it a little easier. That being said, I’m still a big fan of lots of down time for kids.

      Reply
  6. amy says

    April 13, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    Love you thought provoking honesty here! xx

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  7. Erika @ Ever-changing Life of a Mum says

    April 13, 2016 at 11:00 am

    Definitely no ironing, except for my husband’s work shirts and even then they pile up until I can no longer ignore them! I also try to reduce the amount of after school activities for my girls, but unfortunately the timetabling of some of these activities means we have a few hectic nights during the week. A big one for me is learning to say no and limiting social activities to only one outing per weekend to ensure we get some family time and downtime in as well, which is really important to me.

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  8. Kathy says

    April 13, 2016 at 10:55 am

    Great post………….I’m with you on the extra afternoon activities….kids need downtime after being at school for nearly 7 hrs….we have football 6 months of the year and that’s it. Up until last year it was only one night training which was great but as they get older there is 2 nights training which means dinner is later, showers are later and bed time is later which I don’t like but our bedtime is still probably earlier than everyone else’s. I like the kids to read in bed for a while and still get reasonable sleep in.

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    • Jo@CountryLifeExperiment says

      April 13, 2016 at 4:31 pm

      I’m a fan of early bed times too – our kids need it, though Hannah assures me that she doesn’t!

      Reply
  9. Seona Gray says

    April 13, 2016 at 7:47 am

    I started out with the simple things and keeping lift simple but as the years have gone past it is getting on top of me. We will be moving withen the next 3 months and as we are moving in to my old family home. Things will need to go back as there just not the room.
    As for extra activities i wish that that could be simple but with mr 16 in year 12, there are extras that he does to help with his future. Uni Tuesday arvo, tafe all day wedensday. Plus 15 hours of work plus he competes in surf boat rowing so the training that go’s with that.

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    • Jo@CountryLifeExperiment says

      April 13, 2016 at 4:32 pm

      Things really can build up without noticing at times. It sounds like your move is the perfect catalyst for a little simplifying!

      Reply

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