Hannah has been introduced to ‘Gangnam style’ at school. So thrilled about that – not. She came home and promptly taught Meg the words “Ooooh – sexy lady” (probably because they are the only ones she can remember). Meg then started repeatedly singing it around the house. Once it got into her head, she just kept singing it, despite my telling her to stop. Many, many times.
How do you explain to a 5 year old what “Oooh, sexy lady” means, much less why it is not appropriate for her to say? I know Meg doesn’t understand what it means, but in some ways that makes it worse. After several days of me reminding her that it is not something that is appropriate for little girls to say, she has stopped (thank goodness).
I have always been protective of my kids. Not in a never allowed out of my sight way (They have so much freedom around the farm) but in a ‘cutting out too many outside influences, and allowing my children to remain children for as long as possible” way. We are careful about the types of DVDs, and television we allow our kids to watch, and the music they listen to. I will not buy clothing for my kids which is too short/ tight/ adult looking. In short we want our kids to be kids.
Songs that are full of adult ideas like ‘being sexy’ are just another way in which the adult world is encroaching on my kids childhood. I want to wait until they have the emotional maturity to deal with adult concepts before I introduce them. Asking kids to deal with these things too early is not good for them.
Even when my kids are old enough to understand what ‘sexy’ means, I want them to value themselves for qualities like their kindness, perseverance courage, and strong work ethic. I never want them to value themselves (or be valued for others) for how sexy they are. A song which seems to go on and on about being “sexy” whilst men leer at women’s bottoms is not the kind of image or lyrics I want my kids to see.
I know that gangnam style is not the worst offender, but it is the one which has been going through our house at the moment.
What do you think? Am I over reacting? Do you mind your kids singing these kinds of songs? Should I just home school my kids, lock the farm gate, and never allow them to meet anyone until they are 25?